--A Year Of Total Miseries 01st June 2009-- 01st June 2010--

--SKY--

The Sky Is Limitless

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Limitless the sky is

All its lies

Spread further to the universe

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Limitless the sky

Is and I do not know

Where to start or to end

The sky is one big circle

Limitless is

Its deception.

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I really thought the sky

Is blue and orange

I proved it once

The sky is dust

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Limitless is my misunderstanding

Of the sky

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Limitless is the sky

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I have been deceived the sky is

Limitless....

--"Yesterday" (1965)--

"Yesterday" is a pop song originally recorded by The Beatles for their 1965 album Help!. According to the Guinness Book of Records, "Yesterday" has the most cover versions of any song ever written. The song remains popular today with more than 3,000 recorded cover versions, the first hitting the United Kingdom top 10 three months after the release of Help!. Broadcast Music Incorporated (BMI) asserts that it was performed over seven million times in the 20th century alone. The song was not released as a single in the UK at the time of the US release, and thus never gained number 1 single status in that country.
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However, "Yesterday" was voted the best song of the 20th century in a 1999 BBC Radio 2 poll of music experts and listeners.
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"Yesterday" takes the form of a melancholic acoustic ballad about a break-up. It was the first official recording by The Beatles that relied upon a performance by a single member of the band — Paul McCartney was accompanied solely by a string quartet. The final recording differed so greatly from other works by The Beatles that the other three members of the band vetoed the release of the song as a single in the United Kingdom. Although credited to "Lennon/McCartney", the song was written solely by McCartney.
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~http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yesterday_(song)
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--ME.......--

--Faith......--

--Thank You very much.....--

--Live to Eat -- Eat to Live--

I eat to live and live to eat

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Caterpillar

Crawling

Loop on loop

down twiglet avenues

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The wormy beast

Must have its feast,

the leaves devoured

in hours

and hours of

Feeding frenzy.

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Oh so trendy

funky fuzz

creates a buzz

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When spied

by other eyes.....

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~http://www.netpoets.com/poems/beauty/1297002.htm

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~http://www.myhero.com/myhero/hero.asp?hero=b_franklin

--Human Understanding--

The Benefits of Understanding Human Behavior
Human behavior is absolutely fascinating. Observing people and trying to predict what they will do next can provide a real learning experience. Human behavior is quite predictable in many instances. Personalities can be extremely complex but there are areas that can be understood with a high degree of accuracy. That is part of the value in using validated personality assessments. It's a lot like on the job training in the human behavior department.
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You are probably wondering how you would use that information.
If you are considering promoting an employee into a new position with higher levels of responsibility, wouldn't it be beneficial to know ahead of time how he would perform in the new job? You can also use this information and understanding when putting together a team to manage a new project. You will even know who should be assigned certain tasks in order to play to each members strengths instead of to their weaknesses.
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All industries are having to handle technological change.
Which employees will be able to respond to those changes without difficulty? Which employees should be targeted for specialized or advanced training? Wouldn't it also be beneficial to know which employees would need supplemental or remedial training?
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Another interesting fact about human beings is that they sometimes behave badly just because they don't know any other way to express themselves.
You can effectively spot those individuals and defuse potential problems before they ever get out of the box.
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The more that you work with a personality assessment instrument, the more proficient you will become in understanding and reading people accurately.
This is an enormous help when interviewing and screening applicants or in conflict resolution. When you understand what is driving the behavior, you will be able to predict the outcome much more successfully. You will not become a guru overnight, but a little coaching can take you a long way very quickly.
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~http://www.employment-testing.com/understanding_behavior.htm
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~http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enquiry_Concerning_Human_Understanding
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~http://www.oup.com/us/companion.websites/9780195336122/?view=usa
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~http://www.human-understanding.com/

--Massage Therapy in Cambodia--

Massage is the practice of soft tissue manipulation with physical, functional, and in some cases psychological purposes and goals. The word comes from the French massage "friction of kneading," or from Arabic massa meaning "to touch, feel or handle" or from Latin massa meaning "mass, dough". (In distinction the ancient Greek word for massage was anatripsis, and the Latin was frictio). An older etymology may even have been the Hebrew me-sakj "to anoint with oil".

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Massage involves acting on and manipulating the client's body with pressure (structured, unstructured, stationary, and/or moving), tension, motion, or vibration done manually or with mechanical aids. Target tissues may include muscles, tendons, ligaments, skin, joints, or other connective tissue, as well as lymphatic vessels, and/or organs of the gastrointestinal system. Massage can be applied with the hands, fingers, elbows, forearm, and feet. There are over eighty different massage modalities.

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The most cited reasons for introducing massage have been client demand and perceived clinical effectiveness.

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In professional settings massage involves the client being treated while lying on a massage table, sitting in a massage chair, or lying on a mat on the floor. The massage subject may be fully or partly unclothed. Parts of the body may be covered with towels or sheets.
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~http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Massage_therapy

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/University_Malaya_Medical_Centre
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http://www.um.edu.my/

--Columbia Asia--

"OPP-1540"

~http://www.columbiaasia.com/news.html

--Recovery Month 2008--

--Recovering Addict to-do List--

1. Stop Isolating either literally or in some other politically correct way.
2. Get to a 12 Step meeting of some sort, if you have been attending your "home-group" regularly and still have some anxiety issues try a new meeting out, it is quite common for an addict to even isolate in their own home group.
3. Call your sponsor.
4. Do what is on your plate for the day and prioritize tasks, don't try to do everything at once.

Do not medicate, recovery does not always feel good - trying to feel good was what got you into all the messes in the first place.

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~http://www.addictionz.com/do_things_for_recovering_addict.htm

--HELP is on THE WAY?--

Ask for help

The first rule of recovery is to be able to ask for help, to reach out and get support from others. If you need assistance there will be plenty of people in recovery only too willing give it. Just ask!

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Eat properly

See the Nutrition and exercise section for tips on how to best take care of your nutritional needs.

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Exercise regularly

Exercise is a mood enhancer and will lift our spirits and give us something else to think about other than our craving or addiction.

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Don’t be isolated

Our addictive side thrives on isolation, so when you find yourself wanting to be alone and not in company most of the time and not in company, ring your own internal alarm bell and get connected swiftly!

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Be honest

Honesty in recovery is paramount; if we lie to ourselves and others it is impossible for us to get well.

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Use positive affirmations

Sadly, our own inner voices or internal dialogues are usually our own worst enemies. Truthfully, if we spoke to our friends the way we speak to ourselves most of the time, they would probably have all deserted us by now! Can you treat yourself as you would a dear friend and say encouraging things to yourself rather than use negative expletives? Remind yourself of your good points, of what you are doing well, of traits and characteristics you like about yourself. You need to learn how to be your own best friend and dump the enemy, who is certainly not helping you.

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Live in the here and now

Addicts have a habit of living in the future or in the past. We disconnect from the present moment and turn our attention instead to our internal dialogue and fantasies. Counter this tendency by making concerted efforts to stay in the present. Keep your thoughts in the moment without projecting into the future or forever re-running the past.

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One final point!

It is imperative that as part of your recovery you learn about the relapse process and devise your own plan to help prevent it happening to you. You need to develop your own strategy and look at ways to avoid your personal triggers and know what warning signs are significant for you. Please look at the relapse prevention planner and questions so that you can design your own recovery plan. This will give you a prevention procedure that will aid your recovery greatly and give you the tools you need to maintain sobriety in the long term.

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~http://www.trntv.co.uk/family-and-friends/relapse-prevention/how-to-recognise-relapse-4/

--How to recognise Relapse--

One of the major challenges in recovery from any addiction is the reality that relapse may occur, particularly in the early months of abstinence when relapse rates are high. At this time, we need to be extra vigilant and highly self-aware in order to stay committed to our newly found path and avoid being tempted back into our old addictive patterns.

Relapse is not a single event, as is often believed, but a process that builds up days, weeks, or even months before the addictive cycle recommences. Relapse is not unusual and indeed is probably better viewed as part of the journey towards recovery. The majority of addicts repeat the cycle of change many times before they are able to sustain long-term sobriety. If you do relapse, learning why may help you avoid it next time.

Signs of relapse
Being clean from any addiction is an ongoing process that requires both abstinence from mood-altering substances and changes in your behaviour, attitudes, feelings and thinking. When we are at risk of relapse, we may allow more negative behaviour, thinking, attitudes and feelings to creep in. Below is a list of relapse symptoms, the list is not exhaustive but may help you recognise whether you are in danger.

Behaviour

• Arguing more frequently for no apparent reason
• Getting angry easily
• Smoking more/increasing caffeine intake
• Eating irregularly or more than before
• Being compulsive in another area, such as cleaning, washing or exercising
• Losing your daily structure
• Attending fewer fellowship meetings or stopping altogether

Attitudes

• Convinced you will never ever use again
• Negative about life
• Lying and manipulating others
• Openly rejecting help from others
• Dissatisfied with life
• Losing confidence in your ability to remain abstinent
• Imposing your recovery on other people
• Adopting a non-structured lifestyle, no boundaries
• Not caring about sobriety

Feelings

• Moody and/or depressed
• Angry with self or others
• Euphoric
• Bored
• Self-pitying with self-defeating beliefs
• Lonely and isolated
• Unresolved guilt and shame
• Unreasonably resentful
• Hopeless, there seem to be no solutions
• Wanting to be happy but not knowing how
• Fearful about the future or life without using
• Hungry, angry, lonely or tired and believing using would relieve the symptoms

Thinking

• Believing you are cured and could now control your intake (reactivation of denial)
• Minimising the effects and consequences of addiction on your life
• Thinking you can drink as long as you stay off cocaine or cross-addicting to another process or substance
• Being unable to concentrate or achieve tasks or goals
• Focusing solely on one area of your life (having tunnel vision)
• Having periods of confusion
• Being less able to plan constructively, inattention to detail
• Daydreaming, always thinking “if only…”
• Believing alcohol/drugs/using is necessary in order to have fun
• Growing impatient with the recovery plan, things aren’t happening fast enough

Typically, relapse progresses from stability through a period of increasing distress that leads to physical or emotional collapse. To understand how warning signs can progress, it is important to look at the interaction between the recovery and relapse processes, both of which have six key stages.

The recovery process

• Abstaining from alcohol, food, drugs, gambling, sex, co-dependent behaviour etc
• Separating from people, places and things that promote the use of addiction and establishing a social network that supports recovery
• Stopping self-defeating behaviours that prevent awareness of painful feelings and irrational thoughts
• Learning how to manage feelings and emotions responsibly without resorting to compulsive behaviour or the use of alcohol, food, drugs, gambling etc
• Learning to change addictive thinking patterns that create painful feelings and self-defeating behaviours
• Identifying and changing the mistaken core beliefs about oneself, others and the world that promote irrational thinking

The relapse process

When people who have had a stable recovery begin the relapse process, they simply reverse the six stages of recovery. Therefore they begin to:

• Have a mistaken belief that causes irrational thoughts
• Return to addictive thinking patterns that cause painful feelings
• Engage in compulsive, self-defeating behaviours as a way of avoiding the feelings
• Seek out situations that involve people who use alcohol, drugs, etc.
• Find themselves in more pain, thinking less rationally and behaving less responsibly
• Manage to find themselves in a situation where using seems like a logical escape from their pain, they return to their addiction

~http://www.trntv.co.uk/family-and-friends/relapse-prevention/how-to-recognise-relapse-1/

--First Step--

‘All addicts are fearful of taking the first step.

Action on Addiction was the bridge that helped me move from the dark to the light.’

~TOM~

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~http://www.actiononaddiction.org.uk/

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~http://www.trntv.co.uk/family-and-friends/useful-links/

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~http://www.addictiontoday.org/addictiontoday/contact-us.html

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~http://www.al-anon.org/contact.html

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--Addict's Family & Friends--

How many people are involved in the life of any one addict? Family, friends, employers, co-workers … we are all affected by addiction – not just the addict. While our loved one struggles to feed his or her addiction, we have to cope with the fallout.

The distress suffered by families and friends of addicts is severely underestimated. Through embarrassment and shame we often become isolated from friends and the wider community. We may start to question our own judgement because we’ve been lied to so many times or have been abused by the addict.

We probably feel like we’re living on a rollercoaster of emotions: anger, frustration, helplessness, confusion, hopelessness, guilt and shame. Stress takes its toll and manifests itself in health problems such as anxiety, depression, headaches and digestive disorders. We may even have suicidal feelings.

Usually we become so focused on the behaviour and problems of the addict that we completely lose sight of ourselves. All our energy is directed into caring for and covering up for the addict so that in the end, all we are doing is enabling him or her to pursue the addiction. The irony is that unless we care for ourselves, the vicious cycle of addiction is likely to continue because we have unwittingly built up a culture of dependency.

Changing our behaviour can be uncomfortable and very difficult, but we need to take responsibility for ourselves and our own recovery. There is evidence to suggest that when we take care of ourselves for our own sake, addicts may begin to seek help.

At The Recovery Network, we are committed to providing support for family members and friends who are often overlooked as victims of this illness.
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~http://www.trntv.co.uk/family%2Dand%2Dfriends/

--Cause of Death -- Sloppy Doctors--

Iatrogenic -- a word you should know…

According to Webster's, it means: Induced in a patient by a physician's activity, manner, or therapy. In other words: Caused by a doctor.
Now doctors can cause all kinds of things. Cures. Wellness. Hope. But what about death? Is that something we're used to thinking is caused by our doctors? Well, if you've been reading the Daily Dose -- or my Real Health newsletter -- for any length of time at all, you'll probably answer a resounding YES to that last question. But if you're new, I want to bring you up to speed on a truly frightening statistic -- one that'll shake you to your soon-to-be-ex-mainstream core:

Doctors' sloppy kills more than 7,000 people annually. It's a shocking statistic, and, according to a July 2006 report from the National Academies of Science's Institute of Medicine (IOM), preventable medication mistakes also injure more than 1.5 million Americans annually. Many such errors result from unclear abbreviations and dosage indications and illegible writing on some of the 3.2 billion prescriptions written in the U.S. every year.

The U.S. health care system may contribute to poor health or death. According to Dr. Barbara Starfield of the Johns Hopkins School of Hygiene and Public Health, 250,000 deaths per year are caused by medical errors, making this the third-largest cause of death in the U.S., following heart disease and cancer.

ALL THESE ARE DEATHS PER YEAR in THE USA:

12,000 --- unnecessary surgery
7,000 --- medication errors in hospitals
20,000 --- other errors in hospitals
80,000 --- infections in hospitals
106,000 --- non-error, negative effects of drugs

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~http://www.infoimpact.com/newspdf/Cause%20of%20Death_%20Sloppy%20Doctors.pdf
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~http://www.naturodoc.com/library/public_health/doctors_cause_death.htm
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~http://www.missingangelsbill.org/news/20040405.html
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~http://www.ghchealth.com/doctors-leading-cause-of-death.html
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~http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1578074,00.html
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~http://www.douglassreport.com/dailydose/dd200303/dd20030318a.html

--HELP and SUPPORTs--

The celebrated physician and Nobel Peace Prize recipient, Dr. Albert Schweitzer, once stated: "In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flames by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit." Indeed, no man is an island, and human beings are by nature interdependent on one another for their emotional survival. Oftentimes, individuals feel helpless and hopeless when confronted by a crisis. Support groups are a reminder that they are not alone, and that help is just a meeting away. Research corroborates the belief that the peer support mechanism furthers the recovery process. According to two studies conducted in the cancer research field, patients who attended support groups and followed their medical treatments, had a higher longevity and experienced depression and anxiety to a lesser degree than those who did not participate. Many experts maintain that receiving emotional encouragement from others in a support group environment decreases one's mental distress and anxiety, as well as enhances one's mood. This in turn boosts the peer group member's immune system and emotional well-being.
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~http://www.treatment4addiction.com/recovery/support-groups.aspx

--Socialism--

Social phobia, also called social anxiety disorder, involves overwhelming anxiety and excessive self-consciousness in everyday social situations. People with social phobia have a persistent, intense, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and being embarrassed or humiliated by their own actions. Their fear may be so severe that it interferes with work or school, and other ordinary activities. While many people with social phobia recognize that their fear of being around people may be excessive or unreasonable, they are unable to overcome it. They often worry for days or weeks in advance of a dreaded situation.
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Social phobia can be limited to only one type of situation — such as a fear of speaking in formal or informal situations, or eating, drinking, or writing in front of others — or, in its most severe form, may be so broad that a person experiences symptoms almost anytime they are around other people. Social phobia can be very debilitating — it may even keep people from going to work or school on some days. Many people with this illness have a hard time making and keeping friends.
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Physical symptoms often accompany the intense anxiety of social phobia and include blushing, profuse sweating, trembling, nausea, and difficulty talking. If you suffer from social phobia, you may be painfully embarrassed by these symptoms and feel as though all eyes are focused on you. You may be afraid of being with people other than your family.
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People with social phobia are aware that their feelings are irrational. Even if they manage to confront what they fear, they usually feel very anxious beforehand and are intensely uncomfortable throughout. Afterward, the unpleasant feelings may linger, as they worry about how they may have been judged or what others may have thought or observed about them.
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Social phobia affects about 5.3 million adult Americans. Women and men are equally likely to develop social phobia. The disorder usually begins in childhood or early adolescence, and there is some evidence that genetic factors are involved. Social phobia often co-occurs with other anxiety disorders or depression. Substance abuse or dependence may develop in individuals who attempt to "self-medicate" their social phobia by drinking or using drugs. Social phobia can be treated successfully with carefully targeted psychotherapy or medications.
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Social phobia can severely disrupt normal life, interfering with school, work, or social relationships. The dread of a feared event can begin weeks in advance and be quite debilitating.
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~http://health.discovery.com/centers/mental/anxiety/socialphobia.html